Kural 811 | Declining bad friendship is better than growing it



**பருகுவார் போலினும் பண்பிலார் கேண்மை  

பெருகலிற் குன்ற லினிது.**


**Transliteration:**

**Paruguvaar polinum panbilar kenmai  

Perugalir kunral inidhu.**


#### Word by Word Meaning:


- **பருகுவார் போலினும்** (Paruguvaar polinum): Even if they seem to embrace you

- **பண்பிலார்** (Panbilar): Those without virtue

- **கேண்மை** (Kenmai): Friendship

- **பெருகலிற்** (Perugalir): In growing

- **குன்றல்** (Kunral): Diminishing

- **இனிது** (Inidhu): Better


### Translation and Detailed Explanation:


**Translation:**

"Though unscrupulous men may seem to consume you in friendship, their companionship grows more delightful as it declines."


**Explanation:**

The verse emphasizes the nature of friendships with those who lack virtue. Even if such individuals appear to be friendly and affectionate, their company is ultimately harmful. Thiruvalluvar suggests that it is better for such friendships to diminish rather than grow. The decline of relationships with unprincipled people is beneficial, as their influence and actions can lead to negative consequences. Thus, it is preferable to distance oneself from such friendships for overall well-being and peace of mind.

### Example/Analogy:

Imagine you have a garden. If you plant seeds that seem healthy but are actually weeds, they may initially appear to grow well alongside your flowers. However, over time, these weeds will start to choke and harm the flowers. It's better to remove the weeds early on, even if they seemed harmless at first. Similarly, friendships with unvirtuous people might seem pleasant initially but will eventually cause harm.


### Highlights:


  • Avoid growing friendships with those lacking good character
  • Their increasing closeness is undesirable
  • Prioritize quality over quantity in friendships
  • Don't fall for false affection from the unscrupulous


### Inference for Modern Times:

In today's networked world, discerning between genuine friends and fair-weather ones is crucial. Social media followers and likes don't equal true friendship. Invest in relationships with people who have integrity and support you through ups and downs. Quality companionship matters more than popularity. 👥💖


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